1 Kings 1:7-8
7. Then he conferred with Joab the son of Zeruiah and with Abiathar the priest, and they followed and helped Adonijah.
8. But Zadok the priest, Benaiah the son of Jehoiada, Nathan the prophet, Shimei, Rei, and the mighty men who belonged to David were not with Adonijah. (I Kings 1:7-8 NKJV)
Who are your best friends? Who do you seek counsel from when required? Who do you share your feelings and desires with? Are these people trustworthy? Will they give you good advise? Will they caution or even rebuke you when necessary? Adonijah conferred with Joab and Abiathar probably because they supported his ideas and aspirations. It is natural that we discuss things with people who agree with us. But this may not be in Adonijah’s best interest. He did not have the loving rebuke of his father. Those he conferred with did not caution him regarding right from wrong. They only affirmed what he wanted to do. As we shall subsequently see, this spelled disaster. This reminds us the importance of listening to the right advice, which begins with spending time with the right people.
Prov 13:20 tells us that “He who walks with the wise shall be wise..”. We become wiser as we mix with people we can learn from over time. Interestingly, in tribal cultures, you will not see young people going hunting together. Instead, an adult will always be paired with a younger one so that he may learn how to become a warrior. And the younger one understands that he must learn from the adult, otherwise he may be killed. Rehoboam made this mistake in 1 Kings 12:8 where he took the counsel of his peers instead of the experienced advisers of his father Solomon. The result? Israel became a divided kingdom and launched into a tragic history.
Who did Adonijah NOT confer with? Two people noteworthy: Zadok the priest & Nathan the prophet. These were 2 people who could have provided the spiritual perspectives of his actions to him. Yet, they were the ones whom Adonijah did not interact with. Sometimes, we may be afraid to interact with our spiritual leaders because we are afraid that our true spiritual state may be exposed. If this is the case, we ought to, all the more, use the opportunity to repent and be restored to God.
Questions for meditation:
1) Who do I spend most time with? Are these people a good spiritual influence for me?
2) What can my fellowship do to help us find our best friends in Church?
What you can pray for:
1) May God grant us people & friends who can provide us with good counsel when making decisions in life
May God grant us Godly objectivity and discernment when conferring with people around us so that our minds are appropriately shaped to be aligned to the image of His Son Jesus Christ.